Approval

Approval

I used to have a lot of religious flip-flopping as a kid. I would become very religious and then backslide. I think this was for approval. I would feel good when I became religious because I felt like I was doing the right thing and everyone in society and my parents and God approved of me.

I find it hard to take criticism.

When I create something or do something I usually want immediate positive feedback. I put in little effort and want a lot of results.

I want people to like me and often will repress my own opinions and desires. I have a lot of trouble being assertive because I’m afraid it will be taken negatively.

Often I am motivated by approval or praise. I can feel “recharged” and feel new energy to complete work projects etc.

When we were first dating my most recent ex would often be encouraging in a "leader" type way when we were running or working on something and he would tell me I was doing a good job and it meant a huge amount to me.